Wikipedia describes a fetish as follows:
“Sexual fetishism, or erotic fetishism, is the
sexual arousal a person receives from a physical object, or from a specific situation. The object or situation of interest is called the fetish; the person who has a fetish for that object/situation is a fetishist.
[1] A sexual fetish may be regarded as an enhancing element to a romantic/sexual relationship "achieved in ordinary ways (e.g. having the partner wear a particular garment)" or as a
mental disorder/disorder of sexual preference if it causes significant psychosocial distress for the person or has detrimental effects on important areas of their life.
[2] Arousal from a particular body part is classified as
partialism.
[3]
If a sexual fetish causes significant psychosocial distress for the person or has detrimental effects on important areas of their life, it is diagnosable as a
paraphilia in the
DSM and the
ICD.
[2] Many people embrace their fetish rather than attempting treatment to rid themselves of it, especially in an age where they can easily find communities of like-minded people via the internet.”
This morning I found myself asking; “what do fetishes mean?” What do my fetishes reveal about me? Do specific fetishes designate certain points on the dominant submissive spectrum? If someone has a fetish for stockings, black leather boots and high heeled shoes (for example) does that automatically mean they are submissive? I was tempted to say yes but the evidence seemed to contradict me.
The allure of the black leather boot is legendary. That was the first fetish I became aware of. The image of a woman in black leather boots is so quintessentially dominant it is almost a cliche.
I have other fetishes that focus on the female foot and everything that adorns it; a fetish for stiletto heeled pumps for example. The higher the heel the more attractive it is to my fetishist’s eye. High heeled shoes enhance the form of the female leg and change the way a woman walks, instantly transforming her into a seductive siren.
I soon discovered that stockings were another hot button for me. Few things tease my fetishist’s eye like a woman’s stocking held up by a garter. Little details about the stocking itself make it more exciting. As with boots my favorite color is definitely black. A seam up the back ratchets up my excitement as does a reinforced toe or a Cuban heel.
Until I met Her Majesty I was unaware I had a fetish for bare feet. Her Majesty likes nothing more than having her feet worshiped. Over time she trained me to serve, worship and adore her bare feet. Now all she has to do is put her feet up on the coffee table and I become terribly excited! Little touches like red toenail polish have the power to throw me into paroxysms of ecstasy.
Though these fetishes inspire my submissive nature many admirers of the female foot and it’s adornments are not submissive. High heeled shoes, for example, can be viewed as an artifact of female subjugation. They can be extremely uncomfortable, bad for her feet and can transform her into a submissive sex object as easily as a dominant goddess. The “meaning” of the high heeled shoe seems to be in the eye of the beholder, though it does seem clear they were designed to excite the male libido. As D.L. King once said to me; “we wear them for you guys!”
To make matters more confusing some of us want to see the woman of our dreams wearing the object of our desire while others wish to wear the fetish object ourselves. I have shared advertisements for high heeled shoes or boots with Her Majesty only to hear her say; “if you like them so much why don’t YOU wear them!” For some subs that would work just fine For me not so much.
Fetish objects stand on their own as beacons of sexuality but it can be problematic to assume they imply something specific about the fetishist. These objects of desire seem to assume varying significance depending on the eye of the beholder and how he is wired. Regardless of their significance or what my fetishes say about me, they have certainly made my life more interesting!
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