It's been coming for awhile. I just had separation anxiety about stepping away from this blog. This is going to be my last post for the foreseeable future. To be honest I kept blogging a lot longer than I thought I would. I feel the need to step away now. Her Majesty and I will be traveling out of the country soon so we will be dropping off the grid entirely. I am really looking forward to that. I definitely need to unplug for awhile.
I don't want to continue writing about the intimate details of my marriage. I still love playing with Her Majesty. I just don't want to blog about it anymore. There are countless “stories” on Her Majesty’s Plaything already. Some of the best bits were extracted, reconstituted in short story form and appear in the collection “Under Her Thumb: Erotic Stories of Female Domination”, edited by D.L. King. It is possible I may return at some future date to post more femdom fiction. I haven't decided about that yet.
I am glad folks enjoyed reading about our sessions as much as I enjoyed writing about them. I just received an email from someone saying they loved my “stories”. I can't write fiction this authentic. At least not yet. Everything described on Her Majesty’s Plaything is true with the exception of posts specifically identified as fiction.
The view the blog provides of our relationship is one sided. Nobody has heard from Her Majesty with the exception of a comment at my 20 year sober anniversary and a quote in which she said the secret of being a Domme was “not being afraid to be bossy”. Some folks took exception to that for being too simplistic. It makes me laugh to think of it now. I thought it was adorable. She really means it too. She is extremely bossy! Unfortunately Her Majesty has never taken an interest in the blog. She does not share my enthusiasm but she has been extremely patient with me.
The blog has been entirely focused on our D/s relationship. I left out terabytes worth of day to day stuff that happens in our lives. There are also things about our relationship that I haven't shared because I didn't think they were suitable for public consumption. I long ago resolved not to air our dirty laundry in public out of respect for Her Majesty. We do not have a perfect relationship. Nobody does. If anything D/s roles just make things more complicated.
After all the writing and thinking I have done on this topic I wish I could say I know the answers to the myriad questions surrounding how best to have a successful femdom relationship. I feel like the more I learn the less I know. It is very difficult to stay in D/s roles permanently or even most of the time. D/s is largely based on fantasy. That fantasy often has to be paused, sometimes for a long time, while we deal with urgent life matters that are not romantic, glamorous or sexy. Success or failure depends on how quickly we rebound and how flexible we can be.